Have you ever felt completely insignificant, yet overwhelmingly needed at the same time?
I wrote that last sentence as I lay in my bed “trying” to sleep yet knowing there is so much more left to do.
Mothers are the background workers that keep everything going. We make sure everyone else’s needs are met and if there is time we try to attend to our own needs. When we get that fraction of a second to focus on our work, hobby, self-care...we feel guilty. But why?
We deserve more than a fraction of a second. We deserve not to feel like our switch is stuck in the on position. It is okay not to feel “fine” and everything doesn’t always have to be “okay.”
It’s hard. It’s overwhelming. It’s anxiety-provoking.
I started this journey back in 2016 when I had my first daughter, Ellie. My pregnancy was average: some morning sickness, throw in a kidney stone, and 40ish weeks later we had a beautiful baby girl.
I was up for 36 hours straight right out of the gate. The degree of tiredness I felt during the newborn stage was debilitating. Throw in the diagnosis of postpartum depression and my world had flipped upside down. Don’t get me wrong there are so many beautiful positives, but those are always talked about. Let’s be real. I love my daughters with every fiber of my being, but what motherhood has taught me is that I also love myself.
I love doing my nails, crocheting (#momlife), reading, learning, scrolling mindlessly through Facebook, binge-watching Netflix (no need to ask Nextflix...I’m still here), and I LOVE SLEEP.
I love when my daughters sleep, I love when I sleep, I love learning about sleep, I love helping families get their sleep back! Sleep is essential. From a mother’s perspective it provides benefits to my daughters' health and development. From a tired 32-year-old woman who just wants a glimpse of pre-mom responsibilities, sleep also gives me the freedom to feel like I’m not “on” 24/7.
Making my daughters’ sleep a priority allowed me to invest in me. Structured naps gave me dedicated times during the day to focus on things I needed to get done and early bedtimes provide me with the chance to retire my mom uniform (let’s be honest… I just changed into different yoga pants).
Prioritizing my daughters’ sleep helped me make myself a priority. My family struggled with sleep for a long time. Teaching my daughters to sleep well and sleep independently provided me with opportunities for self-growth.
You are not alone.
Time is one of the most valuable things we have, and I knew I wanted to spend my time helping families get back to sleep. Sleep helps us grow, energize, and reset. In short, good sleep gives us more time.
As a parent, we are responsible for knowing a lot of things, but we do not need to know everything.
I know how hard it is...I have been there, and I am still there. Parenthood can be overwhelming and that’s okay. You are not alone.
As always, I’m sending you sleepy vibes 💗